Self surgery

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SPEAKER_01 0:00

Hello, welcome to our foral culture with Kay. I am Barry coming at you from the ATL. Beautiful day in well, it's night, but um beautiful day in Georgia. Thank you for you guys listening. We appreciate you guys. We know uh when you guys listen to us, so we appreciate it when you do. We really, really do. Um I was talking to Barry earlier about this. Uh Germany tried a four-day work week, and it went so well that 70 per thirty-three percent of the companies never went back to five days. Obviously, meaning they're you know, it's giving people an extra day off so they can be more clear-headed, and you know, um but you know, nonetheless, um I was gonna read a few more. Remember, a man who can't fight is always looking for a fight, but a man who can destroy in seconds always avoids it. There's actually a lot of truth behind that.

unknown 0:59

That's a pretty good one.

SPEAKER_01 1:00

Uh that Valdemir Lenin said, if you want to destroy a nation, destroy the thinking of its youth. That's actually pretty good. Because if you look at our youth now, you know, and you've heard me and Barry discuss this many times, our youth isn't doing super great. We talked about having a common sense class, which Barry liked, you know, in in instead of helping. Oh yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:25

By what grade do you think?

SPEAKER_01 1:26

Like fourth, fifth, sixth.

SPEAKER_00 1:29

We said like first grade.

SPEAKER_01 1:30

Yeah, you're right. You're already kind of developed by middle school.

unknown 1:33

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:34

Um, I mean, it wouldn't be a bad idea. I was even going, there's this other thing that's called um misphonia or some shit. It's basically people get angry at you when you breathe or eat. It's called misphonia, which is crazy.

SPEAKER_00 1:49

Well, what if you have uh what what if I have something that doesn't like the people who like the people that don't like the people that breathe?

SPEAKER_01 1:57

I mean, seriously, like, so you're gonna walk by somebody not like 'em because they're breathing. Like, I mean, how's that work? I just that shit's crazy. Um uh Nicolo Tesla, is that how you pronounce his name? Tesla? Yeah. Nicola Nikolai. He says, I I don't care that they stole my idea, which apparently they did. He says, Um, yeah, I don't care that they stole my idea. I care that they don't have any of their own. Um Ryan Gosselin, which I'm not really a big fan of, but he said something that uh made sense. He said, today's kids can't handle any hard truth, which is true. We're raising a generation of snowflakes. So that's one of the reasons why me and Barry are some of you may think we're so blunt in our approach or our delivery, but it's because a lot of what we're saying is truth, and to a lot of people, truth is they don't want to hear it. You know, they'd rather live in, you know, a make-believe world or and there's numerous move uh like Truman show. Like they you know, made this nice little area, this little home for him to make believe he's really living, but it was it was all a lie.

SPEAKER_00 3:00

Um a lot of people believe that believe the make-believe world they're in.

SPEAKER_01 3:06

Yeah, true. Yeah, and I think we get hard on ourselves too, you know. Um I think you have to forgive yourself for not knowing uh earlier what only time could teach you. I mean, like it i if I knew what I knew now and I knew that when I was younger, and you've probably heard people say that, right? Like, you know if I knew what I knew now, but unfortunately we can't do that.

SPEAKER_00 3:29

That's not how life works.

SPEAKER_01 3:31

Yeah, and for I wish it did, but it just it isn't how life works. Um that's the thing, you gotta oh wait, uh I didn't grow up with a sub with supportive talks. I grew up with fix your face before I fix it for you. That's true. So if we maybe were in a in a in a store tonight, and uh well you go, yeah, you tell about a kid.

SPEAKER_00 3:56

You got kids crying, and that's whatever they're crying at the grocery store, and they just keep crying, and the mother's just trying to say something. She was whispering and saying something in his ear. Shut up, so he just kept crying, but he has she had said something, and something told me. He's just crying, but I all I heard was no, oh dear God, uh he said, Oh no, dear God. Like, but he was like he was crying, he was like saying it like crying, like, oh dear God.

SPEAKER_01 4:24

I don't know what she's threatening to take away. Like I'm like, what livelihood his whole existence was being out the window. I'm taking away your video games.

SPEAKER_00 4:33

Oh my god, it's the end of the world.

SPEAKER_01 4:36

Like, and that's the funny thing, like we were talking about how like our parents handled us if we acted out in the in the um grocery store or whatever. Like that saying says, fix your face before I fix it for you. And it was true. Like, I knew if I didn't act right that when I got home I was gonna be getting getting the the palette.

SPEAKER_00 4:53

They would call that abuse.

SPEAKER_01 4:55

Well, yeah, they they would. And I wasn't very keen of it when it was happening to me, but I'm thankful now because you know, I'm not this entitled prick. It's like, oh, okay.

SPEAKER_00 5:06

Some people say that that you can discipline your kids without hitting them.

SPEAKER_01 5:09

Well, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 5:10

So like varying degrees to it. But I feel like if you have to hit your kid, then you didn't do a good job. Kind of.

SPEAKER_01 5:18

Yeah, true.

SPEAKER_00 5:20

Kind of because you may have to hit them one time.

SPEAKER_01 5:22

Yeah, you may you may have to shake them a little bit. Right, right, right.

SPEAKER_00 5:26

That's why I'm like, I don't know about not hitting them at all, but I understand like not hitting, like taking it hit like once or twice. Once or twice. Well, I would get it. And it makes the impact more more more strong when you don't do it as much, I would think.

SPEAKER_01 5:42

Yeah. You know, people every like today now they're like, I'm gonna do this, I'm gonna do that, and they have no real plan on how to achieve it. Um Michael J. or excuse me, no, Michael J. Michael Jordan, the GOAT, said some people want it to happen, some people wish it would happen, others make it happen. So instead of me and Barry just sitting around talking, hey man, like, you know, our talks and stuff, it'd be good if like other people could hear this so that you know maybe they can learn from us and stuff. And then nothing never happened, but what me and Barry did was put in an actual plan and decided to start this podcast so that you the listener could hopefully potentially learn something from our mistakes or from our knowledge. Um we're not saying we're like fucking geniuses over here or we're not, but we have experience in life. And um and so, anyways, uh the smartest surface level. Yeah, not surface at all. Yeah, there's gotta be more depth, right? Um the smartest people are all self-taught, even if they went to school. Um, the founder of some big company, uh I forget that guy's name, said that. Uh you can silence fifty scholars with one fact, but you can't silence one idiot with fifty facts.

SPEAKER_00 6:56

Um they don't hear that part.

SPEAKER_01 6:58

That's right, they don't. Um Michael Jordan also said nothing of value comes without being without it being earned. Um which I agree too. Like I appreciate things that I earn as opposed to things that are just given to me. NASA wants to go deeper into your anus in 2030. Well, actually, really it actually really says that right, Barry. I'm not just making that up. NASA wants to go deeper into your anus. I thought that was kind of funny. Um but yeah, I mean, um But yeah, so you know, life is what it is, but it's just like if you go to a doctor to get over a flu, you also have to do some sort of working on your heart in general if you want to become a better person.

SPEAKER_00 7:46

Um people don't want to work on their heart.

SPEAKER_01 7:49

No. They say they do. You know, I I've heard so many people say I'm bettering myself. How are you bettering yourself? Uh you know, I nobody wants to show their flaws. No. But it's our flaws and our failures that connect us to others when we really share it. Like I haven't really connected to anybody blabbing about my achievements in life, you know? But through my pain I've and the other person's pain, I've connected more to them.

SPEAKER_00 8:18

I guess more than surface talk, you know? Yeah, I'm always anytime I hear somebody if it doesn't go deeper. People only if somebody only talks about the achievements, then I wouldn't trust them at all.

SPEAKER_01 8:32

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 8:32

I think that's a red flag.

SPEAKER_01 8:34

Oh yeah. Well you can tell a lot, you know, about certain people.

unknown 8:38

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 8:39

Like we won't name his name, but there's a certain um gentleman uh worker that Barry works with, um who's a lead, and when you would you say when you first kind of met him the first few days you could kind of already read kind of who he is, kind of a little bit maybe.

SPEAKER_00 8:53

Just a little bit, yeah. Yeah. I wasn't sure, but you know, 'cause you get an idea of somebody. 'Cause they say one thing but do the they start to do the opposite when you be around them, the character comes out.

SPEAKER_01 9:04

Yep. Especially if they get mad or annoyed or angry.

SPEAKER_00 9:08

Right, right. Uh uh. They get annoyed, their real character comes out, they get frustrated.

SPEAKER_01 9:12

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_00 9:14

You have to pay attention to these little things. Like people overlook the simplest stuff. But since I was younger, I've always been the I was always the quieter person I was younger. So me too. I I've always observed a lot, so people are always surprised not to notice stuff that they don't. I'm like, well, because you're too busy talking, you of course you're not gonna notice.

SPEAKER_01 9:32

Yep, you know, no you miss the little things. Like, I can't believe I missed that tonight. But um yeah. Um but yeah, I mean, that's the thing. Like I was quieter too, like growing up, and I would say I can't speak for Barry, but for me, I like never talked about my feelings growing up or how I felt or what I thought about things. Would you say the same was true for you?

SPEAKER_00 9:51

Oh yeah, yeah, I still talk about stuff like that.

SPEAKER_01 9:53

So check it out, like me and Barry, we grew up not wanting to share stuff or open up, which most people do, they're like that. Um, but here we are now doing a fucking national or international podcast sharing our you know thoughts, emotions, whatever, on certain topics. So if we can do it, like you can fucking do it too. You know?

SPEAKER_00 10:15

We actually want the world to be a better place. Yeah. Everybody doesn't want to want the world to contrary to popular belief, everybody is not here to bring good. Yep. I don't know if everybody knows that right now, but you know.

SPEAKER_01 10:28

We do need to put that disclaimer out there. Right.

SPEAKER_00 10:31

Everybody's not here to do good things.

SPEAKER_01 10:33

Even though they might say they are, but like you know.

SPEAKER_00 10:36

If anything, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 10:39

I'm working on myself. I'm I'm I'm staying true to myself. I love these Hallmark card quotes.

SPEAKER_00 10:44

We still reward bad people, so it doesn't even make no sense.

SPEAKER_01 10:49

Dude, it's crazy like kids these days. I think I may mention this before, but they get awarded just to go to the fucking potty in the c kindergarten. They get a sticker for that. I'm like, dude, are you serious? Like, you get a sticker for going to take a poop or pee, like, man, if they gave us a sticker growing up in school, we'd think like, uh-oh, the teacher's after us now. Like she zeroed in on us. Right. We did something bad, we don't know what, but she zeroed in on us now. And now it's like, oh, you went to the potty, here's a sticker. Obviously, the young people. Um, but you know, one thing we talked about earlier, and I think either Jordan or somebody else said this, said, um, nowadays a lot of the failures in kids lie in lie in the parents. Now, I can't say much on this. I'm not a parent. I don't have kids, or at least any that I know of. Um, Barry's uh also uh both of us don't have kids, so um, you know, I think a lot of it does have to do with maybe I mean they're gonna give you the credit if they was doing good. Well, yeah. Doing bad usually how it goes. Yeah, yeah, that's true. Sad sad.

SPEAKER_00 11:54

A lot of people don't really want to take the credit when they're bad. They want to just take care of it. They just want to be there for the good. Yeah, they're gonna be like, 'cause a lot of that can just be, you know, if you ever see a lot of you see a lot of smart people come from dysfunctional houses, yeah, but then the parent tries to make it seem like they wasn't as dysfunctional.

SPEAKER_01 12:12

Yeah, as it was.

SPEAKER_00 12:13

As it was.

SPEAKER_01 12:24

Yeah, I mean, it's just not our nature to naturally want to like I never saw uh uh what you call it, a politician get up and say, you know what, the last ten years I screwed up doing this, I fucked up doing that, I did like never, dude.

SPEAKER_00 12:37

Like corruption just by definition.

SPEAKER_01 12:41

Yeah, like yeah, you're right, that is true. That's corruption kinda uh kinda goes without saying, but yeah, I mean they you know, nobody ever gets up and says, Man, I I really fucked up on this without unless they want attention or something. You know, that's that's a different story. Um there are people that do just want attention, um, unfortunately.

unknown 12:59

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 13:00

But uh but there are genuine people out there too that actually, you know.

SPEAKER_00 13:05

There are there's a lot of genuine people just have to Hard to find.

SPEAKER_01 13:11

Yeah, it's a vibe.

SPEAKER_00 13:12

I'm very good with picking up on I think the old the older I get, I'm very good at picking up on people's energies.

SPEAKER_01 13:20

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 13:23

I'm very I'm starting to get way better at picking up on it. Mm-hmm. And I'm starting to enjoy it now, because I'm like, now I don't have to do the legwork to be like, let me find out if this person's a good person now. I can trust I'm you can trust your instincts.

SPEAKER_01 13:36

Trust your instincts a little bit more.

SPEAKER_00 13:38

And I'm like, well they never failed me yet.

SPEAKER_01 13:39

So not yet.

SPEAKER_00 13:40

I'm the same way as I'm I think people need to start trusting their instincts more.

SPEAKER_01 13:44

Yeah. Some. I mean, some people are really bad at reading other people too. That's true. Like there is a person that I've never even talked to um that has said some really derogatory things about me behind my back, and this person doesn't know me at all. But they claim I, you know, was did horrible things and da-da-da-da-da, and they're clearly wrong. Um her tuition her intuition is obviously jack shit. But there are, you know, and I think I've said this, you've probably heard me say this many times, but if you listen closely enough, an individual will tell you their true intentions without actually saying it out loud. Um if you listen close enough. It's like Barry was saying early, when he was younger, he was noticing things and other people weren't, you know, he was being quiet and noticing things. Well, he kind of has a jump up on everybody because he's you know knows his surroundings, he knows, you know, you you gotta leg up if you can, you know, notice your surroundings, stuff like that.

SPEAKER_00 14:41

Yeah, question things.

SPEAKER_01 14:43

Yeah, yeah. I mean, you never learn if you don't question anything, right?

SPEAKER_00 14:48

Yeah, I mean, why would that didn't even make sense? You just grow up your entire life and never question anything.

SPEAKER_01 14:53

Yeah, exactly.

SPEAKER_00 14:54

I mean it's that seems a little bit dumb to be honest with you.

SPEAKER_01 14:57

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 14:59

Moronic down there.

SPEAKER_01 15:00

This is my new as this may seem. We were shopping in uh grocery store earlier and there was corn. I didn't know know what it was, it was wrapped up, and I grabbed it and Barry told me, hey, this corn, you gotta wrap up things. I didn't know that.

SPEAKER_00 15:12

Like and I had to ask questions because I've seen it, I've seen it in like I've seen different, I've seen different over time. I've seen it in wrapped up. Yeah. But yeah, uh, you don't always see it.

SPEAKER_01 15:23

Well, I guess my whole point is even as minute as that is, like, I asked Barry, hey, what is this? I asked the question. So I learned something new. If you don't ask questions, you ain't never gonna gonna, you know, learn.

SPEAKER_00 15:34

Right, right, right. But some people, yeah, you're right. Some people never ask questions. Don't even care about asking. Some people don't like new information unless it suits them.

SPEAKER_01 15:43

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 15:44

But they benefit directly from it.

SPEAKER_01 15:46

And a lot of people do that in church, they do that with the Bible. They'll take a verse and they'll take it out of constex so it will benefit their argument, their whatever.

SPEAKER_00 15:55

You don't never hear nobody want new information so they can help other people. Selfish purpose.

SPEAKER_01 16:00

Yeah, it always is.

SPEAKER_00 16:00

It's all about it's not a very good way to go about living the living life.

SPEAKER_01 16:05

No, uh-uh. No. You live for yourself, you're gonna wind up by yourself and no friends, like you know, but yeah, I mean, you have to work on yourself, it just isn't gonna come. It's not gonna come by going to the gym and and videotaping yourself, you know, walking on a treadmill, which by the way, nobody gives a shit about watching you on a treadmill or lifting weights, no offense, but nobody gives a shit. Um, you're just not gonna get it. You may get it physically, but mentally is where it's at.

SPEAKER_00 16:33

And 'cause a lot of people need validation.

SPEAKER_01 16:36

Yeah, that's true. They do.

SPEAKER_00 16:38

They didn't get it growing up, so they come to they use the internet to feel better about it's r it's pathetic, but they want that attention. That's what it is.

SPEAKER_01 16:48

I mean, it's true. Like I g I mean, as harsh as this may sound, like when I was growing up, you know, girls that were fives knew they were fives, but now girls that are fives think they're elevens because they got sometimes those fives can look good later and they gotta do some things.

SPEAKER_00 17:05

Oh yeah. A lot of people don't want to put in the work.

SPEAKER_01 17:08

Yeah, that's true.

SPEAKER_00 17:10

I think you mean but ugly. If they're ugly, man. Some people that know they're ugly know they're ugly.

SPEAKER_01 17:15

Yeah, true.

SPEAKER_00 17:16

Well nowadays it's a little it's a little weird.

SPEAKER_01 17:18

Well yeah.

SPEAKER_00 17:18

People don't really know they're ugly these days.

SPEAKER_01 17:20

They don't. They think they're hot or something because they got a bunch of likes on their stupid social media. It's like, oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_00 17:26

Even the cute girls don't even realize how ugly their attitude is.

SPEAKER_01 17:30

Oh yeah. Well that's and that's a problem. That's what our America says. Well, if you're if you're cute and beautiful, you can pretty much do or get away with anything.

SPEAKER_00 17:38

Like Well, the problem is too many people accept that.

SPEAKER_01 17:41

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 17:42

That's once you accept some some things, it's just normal and then it just messes everything up.

SPEAKER_01 17:47

And so it sends the wrong s it sends the wrong subject to the these young girls.

SPEAKER_00 17:52

Like all you gotta do is wear anything they can get away with.

SPEAKER_01 17:58

Just wear something very revealing and you know, get a sucker and you got your life set. You know? That's a problem, man. I mean, uh that's one of the things I don't like about America. We say, well, if you're young and beautiful, you can get out of a ticket, you don't have to follow the law, you could treat any guy you want badly, or you know, whatever. Like it's just it's a sad direction.

SPEAKER_00 18:22

It's gonna end badly if it keeps on like that. Yeah, it's not gonna end well.

SPEAKER_01 18:28

Yeah, I know. Hate to say it, but until you really go through something life shattering, you never really change your perspective on anything. A lot of the young girls growing up, they haven't been through hardly anything life shattering just yet, you know? Life shattering to them is their mom not giving them their credit card to go shop on a Friday afternoon. You know, that's the end of the world. That's where the kid goes, Oh my god. But you gotta keep working on yourself. Y'all tell us what you want us what you would like us to uh discuss or talk about.

SPEAKER_00 19:02

Um Like always, thanks for listening.

SPEAKER_01 19:04

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